Our views on money are personal and individual. I think maybe the phrase "extra money" really is just short hand for "when I feel a bit more secure that I'm slightly ahead of impending doom". I had guests over this weekend. I noticed one person sizing my posessions up. I could feel that he was making assumptions about my financial worth based on his views of "extra" spending. He sized up my freezer contents, he pulled open a drawer to see that the wood was solid and not veneer, he raised up my table cloth to feel my table.... he commented on a light fixture etc.... the truth is that I have no more than he does on average, I just spend my money differently. My freezer is stocked because I buy on sale and I fear being unprepared for lean times since my income is irratic and seasonal. My wood is solid because it's 50+ yrs old and was a hand me down from my grandmothers time when all wood was solid. The light fixture was picked because it HAD to be replaced but I bought it on ebay for half price and was low energy consumption etc... I confess I felt like he was casing the joint. The truth is that he is probably better off than I am because he knows how much he will earn this week if he shows up. Whereas I have no idea. All I really know is that it won't be enough and there certainly won't be any "extra"
you are a wise and prudent woman and I had a feeling that I was reading prose.....who was that guy? why was he in your house? creepy dude?