What do you say to people who question how much you smoke?

[Auburn1985]

Yes. CO is home, always will be.
The boyfriend and I moved away from home back in March, I had been living with him 3 years before that, I haven't lived with my mom in years.

My brothers girlfriend went missing earlier this month and was found dead two days later, she had committed suicide.
DB and I drove out here immediately to be with my family.
I start a new job when I get back to TN where I live now.

He's taking care of an issue that we couldn't take care of before we left.


So not only have I wrung myself through the emotional wringer of watching my brother go through what he's going through. I'm an empathetic person, it rips me apart but I miss my boyfriend pretty hardcore, I'm lost without him, we're out of cash, my puppy is sick and needs to go to the vet, my mom is a royal ***** and won't just leave me be.

So yes I'm smoking heavier.
And yes, he's doing 10 days for reckless, which is in my state a traffic offense with 10 days min, it's a small *** mountain town, they're sucking us dry over this.

Well, as a dog lover, I feel sorry for your puppy that you spend so much on drugs that you can't afford to take care of your friend and loved one (the puppy). Drugs are like that, if you become physically or mentally addicted. They take and take and take, if you let them. And you're letting them.

Unfortunately, you've gotten some very bad "enabling" advice in previous posts, like the very bad advice to "smoke all the herb you want; at least you ain't smoking crack". That's about the LAST thing you need to hear right now.

Why not try to deal with your problems without drugs? Just to prove to yourself that you could do it. You might save enough money to be able to take your sick puppy to the vet.

I've seen you in many of the young girls in my local community...so many of them end up addicted, pregnant, and abandoned by their boyfriend when the responsibilities and bills started rolling in...then the girl is left to deal with the problems while the boy is searching for a new girlfriend...

Get your sick puppy to a vet...

 

[7greeneyes]

when the wife and I first hooked up, we we're very low on money and she found low cost to free vets. Maybe a quick google of your area with the search criteria of "free or low-income veterinarians in ????"

???? being where you're currently residing.

 

[SkysTheLimit24]

Well, as a dog lover, I feel sorry for your puppy that you spend so much on drugs that you can't afford to take care of your friend and loved one (the puppy). Drugs are like that, if you become physically or mentally addicted. They take and take and take, if you let them. And you're letting them.

Unfortunately, you've gotten some very bad "enabling" advice in previous posts, like the very bad advice to "smoke all the herb you want; at least you ain't smoking crack". That's about the LAST thing you need to hear right now.

Why not try to deal with your problems without drugs? Just to prove to yourself that you could do it. You might save enough money to be able to take your sick puppy to the vet.

I've seen you in many of the young girls in my local community...so many of them end up addicted, pregnant, and abandoned by their boyfriend when the responsibilities and bills started rolling in...then the girl is left to deal with the problems while the boy is searching for a new girlfriend...

Get your sick puppy to a vet...

It's clearing up. His **** now has shape and consistency. He's stressed and he knows his mommy is stressed and it stresses him more. He will not leave me alone. My dog is as tall as I am at 7 months, he knocked my *** down the other day he was so happy when I got home.


I just have so much going on and I'm such an empathetic person and I like to help people.
I've been to the ER three times on this trip.
Once for my boyfriend because he was sick.
Then a friend who's youngest child's father beat her oldest child(two weeks ago) was rushed to the ER last night.
Then yesterday found out another friend was in a motorcycle accident and just got moved from the ICU to another floor where they are keeping him for a few days and he doesn't have family here or at all for that matter.
My brother is off drinking again and all I can do is hope that he comes home alive.
My mom and I yet again got into a pissing match because she just doesn't get it. Overwhelmed by everything and she just doesn't know how to give someone space.
And of course I miss my boyfriend, who doubles as my best friend. Like we're really close, we hang out all the time, hell we live together. So like everything that's going on, I'm going through alone. He's going to be shocked when he gets out and I'm still same after all this.

Well I'm going back to the Hospital now to go see my friend.
They keep sending in some dude to talk to my friend, maybe I'll try and talk to that guy.

 

[ozzydiodude]

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[NorCalHal]

Yeah, what THG said...

And if you're smoking that much at 24, what shape will your lungs be in at 44?

It kinda sorta maybe sounds like you've become too dependent on marijuana just to handle the normal pressures of life, instead of using it in a recreational or justifiably medical manner. I think your mom is right, and I think you should seriously reassess why and how much you smoke. I think you're at least mentally addicted, if not physically addicted as well, to smoking every chance you get. Which is not good.

I'm a dad and marijuana smoker myself, so I can see it from both perspectives.

Good luck.

I got to ask, Do you think that MJ is physically addictive? I have NEVER heard of anyone being physically addicted to MJ.
Was it bad advice I gave her? Maybe. But her Man is getting out of jail tomorrow, and all will go back to the way it was. We all know this.
She is not dependent on MJ my friends, she is dependent on her man, which is FAR worse then MJ.

 

[powerplanter]

I'm with Norcal. Studies have proven smoking pot does not harm you like cigs. I say smoke while your on vacation and straighten up when you get home. As I said before, take care of yourself and then help others. Your no good to anyone if your sick. Take care.

 

[Auburn1985]

I got to ask, Do you think that MJ is physically addictive? I have NEVER heard of anyone being physically addicted to MJ.
Was it bad advice I gave her? Maybe. But her Man is getting out of jail tomorrow, and all will go back to the way it was. We all know this.
She is not dependent on MJ my friends, she is dependent on her man, which is FAR worse then MJ.

No sir, I don't think MJ is physically addictive. But I do think it can be mentally addictive, and I think the OP is definitely mentally addicted. Smoking whenever she's not at work at 24? That's not good Hal. In no way can that be good for her.

But I do agree with you that she has a bigger problem than MJ in being with a low-achieving boyfriend who is in jail while she is cashless and smoking every waking hour...crying because she can't be with him...kinda like a rabbit crying for a hungry coyote to come by...

No offense intended Hal. I know you're a senior member who has gained a lot of respect on this forum. Peace bro.

 

[NorCalHal]

No Worries at all Auburn. I'm glad you didn't think that MJ was phys addictive. I hope I didn't come across like a jerk too bad.

I'm on the line for tokin' up all the time. I defiantly think that a lot of folks can't handle it. By that I mean it is harder for folks to "get motivated" and maintain a self sufficient life. Easy to burn one and be lazy.

But, on the flip side, I think a lot of the same folks would be "unmotivated" regardless of mj use or not. Might just be the person.

When a person "quits" smoking herb, they seem to start getting their life together, in some cases. I argue that it wasn't the stopping of the actual MJ use, as more as it is the decision to stop and get motivated.
If they would have just got motivated in the first place, it wouldn't be a MJ issue.

So, for me, it's more the actual person as it is the actual MJ.

I can state this as I have smoked herb since I was 13. Daily use starting more from 15-16 or so. Pretty much super toking it up from 18 and on. I am 44 now.

I worked a great job from 19 to 32. Took it serious and never smoked at work. I mean never. After work....puffing tough.
Now, I am self employed, and from about 11 am on, I have toked up for sure, 'till night, night time.
I am sure there are a lot more folks on these boards that can say pretty much the same thing. It's ingrained in our lifestyle.

But again, it ain't for everyone, and everyone needs an excuse, I just don't think MJ is the one.

 

[powerplanter]

Its called maturity. Most people grow up eventually. Just not as quickly as we used to.

 

[WeedHopper]

Its called,,and I say again,,,DRAMA QUEEN!!!!!

 

[Grower13]

Its called,,and I say again,,,DRAMA QUEEN!!!!!

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[SkysTheLimit24]

No sir, I don't think MJ is physically addictive. But I do think it can be mentally addictive, and I think the OP is definitely mentally addicted. Smoking whenever she's not at work at 24? That's not good Hal. In no way can that be good for her.

But I do agree with you that she has a bigger problem than MJ in being with a low-achieving boyfriend who is in jail while she is cashless and smoking every waking hour...crying because she can't be with him...kinda like a rabbit crying for a hungry coyote to come by...

No offense intended Hal. I know you're a senior member who has gained a lot of respect on this forum. Peace bro.

He is not low-achieving.
We've been and lived together for about 4 years now.

The 10 days is part of a plea bargain, for something that he didn't even do(I was there), that we took to court and fought till it broke us financially so we said we give up and he took the plea.

He decided to take care of it while we were here so that when we go home he can get his license switched to that state because we plan on starting our own business soon.

 

[WeedHopper]

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[Auburn1985]

He is not low-achieving.
We've been and lived together for about 4 years now.

The 10 days is part of a plea bargain, for something that he didn't even do(I was there), that we took to court and fought till it broke us financially so we said we give up and he took the plea.

He decided to take care of it while we were here so that when we go home he can get his license switched to that state because we plan on starting our own business soon.

OK Sky, good luck.

How's that puppy today?